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Thursday, February 25, 2016

Seven Lies from Satan

When you're going through an addiction, you are experiencing some of the lowest points of your life. You experience thoughts that are much more powerful than just your negative thinking. These are straight-up lies that attacked me on a daily basis from the adversary and once I recognized them as lies, they were much easier to conquer. My hope in sharing this is that you can recognize these lies as ones you've probably had before and then be able to stop them in their tracks. If you're not addicted to pornography, this will give you an idea of what might go through someone's head during their addiction.

Disclaimer: These 7 lies and how I combated them are completely based off of my personal experience. You may have experienced different doubts and may have overcome them in a different way, so basically, this is my acknowledgement of the fact that I'm not an expert, so proceed with an open heart and mind.

1. It's not that bad. There are worse things you could be doing.

Justification is a powerful thing. It gets the best of us. This is the thought that leads us back into our addiction more often than anything else probably. It's also always followed by a big spoonful of "What the heck was I thinking" served with a cold glass of shame. (Moroni 7.) Sometimes, it's like something else overcomes you and pretty soon you're talking yourself into doing it and that it's ok to do it. Remember this: If it's good it comes from God. If it's not good, it comes from Satan.
For behold, the Spirit of Christ is given to every man, that he may know good from evil; (Moroni 7:16)
2. You are too weak. You'll never overcome it, so you should just give up.

If the first lie doesn't work, you can definitely expect this one to follow. For so many years I thought I would never win this battle. I thought I would be limited my entire life. This is where studying about the Atonement and the enabling power of Grace really helped me to see that I couldn't rely on my own strength. I had to rely on Christ's strength and reach out to those around me for help.
"I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them." Ether 12:27
3. You are not worthy to pray.

The times you feel most unworthy to pray are the times you need to pray the most! The Lord loves you and wants to hear from you especially in your darkest moments.
"For if ye would hearken unto the Spirit which teacheth a man to pray, ye would know that ye must pray; for the evil spirit teacheth not a man to pray, but teacheth him that he must not pray." 2 Nephi 32:8
 4. You are worthless.

I felt totally limited in my addiction. I literally felt like I had no value and that extended to almost every facet of my life: school, family, friends, church. I felt like a cheap knock-off sweater that somehow ended up on the floor at Saks.

I combat this lie with a simple testimony, one that took me a really long time to acquire: You are a beloved son or daughter of God. You lived with Him before this life and He knows you perfectly. He knows your weakness and He knows your battles. He wants you to overcome them and He is patient with you. He isn't looking for perfection from you, He's looking for progression. If you can't find worth in yourself, trust in the worth that God sees in you. He loves you more than you could ever begin to comprehend and He will never give up on you.

5. You are the only one who has this problem. Here's the truth: the statistics are such that if YOU are not addicted to pornography, then either your sibling, child, or best friend IS addicted. Isolation has been a huge key for the adversary. The longer we go without talking about this plague, the stronger the fear and isolation will become. The best way to take the taboo off of Pornography Addiction, is by talking about it and learning to be open about it with those around you.

6. If you tell anyone, they'll always see you differently. People will see you differently, but they will see you with an increase of love and admiration. Being honest and open about things that you struggle with invites your loved ones to know a deeper part of you that was blocked off before. It's funny that we try to hide things like this. Why would we let the adversary there but not those that we love? Your loved ones should have your best interest at heart, and probably want to help you, but just aren't able to help because they don't know that you're facing this silent battle. Let them in. Only good can come from being open and honest. Even if they don't respond the way you expect them to, you can at least take comfort in knowing that you are not alone in this battle and that you did your part in being honest.

7. You will never be worthy to serve a mission or to go to the temple. For Latter-day Saints, in order to enter a temple or to serve a mission, you must be following the commandments and be in good standing with God and your fellow men. Viewing pornography can keep you from being able to enter the temple or to serve a mission and Satan is perfectly aware of that. 

When people ask me if I had always planned on serving a mission, I tell them no. I tend to leave out the part where I didn't think I'd ever overcome my  10 year addiction to pornography. I honestly couldn't even imagine the day that I would be clean again. The only thing that kept me going when all else failed was pure and simple hope. The Guide to the Scriptures says that hope is "the confident expectation of and longing for the promised blessings of righteousness." Even though I couldn't see those blessings as a part of my near future, at least I could have the hope that one day I would have them.


You have the same potential of obtaining the Celestial Kingdom as anyone else. There is no sin, no pain, no addiction that is too big for the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Some days it may seem that you are in a dark place, too dark for any light to find you. Remember that someone much greater than you has been in that same place, and He is with you now, by your side. Look for the lies that the adversary so convincingly tells you, and once you see them for what they truly are, throw them far from your mind and look to a better future.

If you have any comments, questions or would like to share your story with the Battle Together page, please email me at battletogether16@gmail.com. 

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